Monday, March 31, 2008

Save Money on your Wedding


How to Save Money on Your Wedding Ceremony and Reception


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You are getting married and want a beautiful event, yet you need to stick to a tight budget. This is a problem that faces many brides. Don't worry; there are ways to have your dream wedding without breaking the bank.

Steps


  1. Prioritize! Make a list of the most important things you want for your wedding and have your fiance do the same. Are you most committed to having gorgeous flowers, inviting 400 people, hosting the wedding at a particular location, or serving filet mignon and lobster? Knowing your priorities before the planning starts will help you decide what to spend money on, and what you don't mind doing cheaply or doing without.
  2. Trim the guest list. This is difficult but sometimes necessary if the cost per guest is going to break your budget. Cross off names on the list of guests who might feel obligated to come to the wedding if they are invited, but would not have their feelings hurt if they are not asked to attend. Think of inviting only relatives with whom you have a close relationship instead of everyone related to you. Invite only the people who are important to you and your parents, rather than everyone you know.
  3. Reduce the number of people in your bridal party. You have to buy nice gifts for every member of your bridal party, and that adds up. Plus, traditionally, the entire bridal party plus their dates are invited to the rehearsal dinner. Seven bridesmaids and seven groomsmen, all their dates, ring bearer and flower girls, and their families, plus both sets of parents and all the readers in the ceremony, plus officiant could add up to 40+ people to feed!
  4. Have your wedding ceremony and reception held at a hotel, and ask for discounts when family and friends are staying at same hotel. Reserve a block of rooms for your guests several months before the wedding for the best rates. Speak with the appropriate manager when asking for discounts and reserving rooms.
  5. Consider a country or small town wedding. Venues, catering, and florists tend to be cheaper in small towns than in large metro areas.
  6. Stick to the schedule for your ceremony and reception. Musicians will charge more if asked to perform beyond the time stated in their contract. You will also incur additional limo charges if your event runs longer than planned.
  7. If you don't know any musicians yourself, call local college music departments rather then browsing the yellow pages. Students will be cheaper then professionals.
  8. Have your ceremony and reception in the same location to simplify things and save you money. There will be no need for limos to take you to the second location. Many houses of worship have halls that are equipped to handle wedding receptions at reasonable fees - especially if you are a member.
  9. Ask friends to lend their talents by helping out with such things as invitations, flowers, and programs. Ask a friend with pretty penmanship to address your invitations instead of hiring a calligrapher. If you simplify your flowers and arrangements, perhaps a friend can assemble fresh or silk flowers which will save you hundreds of dollars. Some of the most attractive wedding programs are printed from a home computer and then creatively assembled with colored cardboard, tissue paper, ribbon, etc.
  10. Consider having your wedding any day but Saturday. Fridays are also popular wedding days but may cost a lot less than a Saturday event. For even greater savings, choose a weekday evening for your wedding. Schedule the wedding to allow guests time to arrive at the ceremony after the work day has ended. Many guests enjoy weekday weddings as this frees up their weekends for other activities. Choose a date between November and April to avoid higher peak season rates in many areas.
  11. Consider altering tradition. If you are doing a round of toasts, guests can toast with whatever they are currently drinking instead of you having to purchase champagne for everyone. Instead of a limo, consider a regular vehicle. If you are happy with just serving beer and wine, skip the full bar and save a bundle on liquor. Consider a lovely formal dress that isn't a traditional gown from a bridal shop.
  12. Ask your married friends how often they pull out their expensive wedding album... Photos, though a nice luxury, can be a huge and potentially unnecessary expense. In reality, you only need one beautiful photo to hang on the wall. If you supply disposable cameras you will be surprised how well the candid pictures turn out. Also, ask a friend who you know is good at ensuring that your guests heads aren't cut off in pictures to help. Make a list of all the family and group shots, research wedding magazines for some nice "set up shots" of the bride and groom, and pass them on to your photographer friend. Also ask friends with digital cameras to email you all the photos they take. Ask a man and a woman who you love having around but couldn't have in the bridal party to capture the bride and groom getting ready. Remember that this is one very happy day when you are both looking your best so it shouldn't be that hard to get a nice album made up without thousands of dollars. You can hire a professional photographer for the ceremony, and leave the rest up to friends.
  13. Remember that the wedding is one day at the start of a life-long commitment. Look beyond the wedding day to the goals you will have as newlyweds. If you want to purchase a house in the next few years, keeping that as a priority throughout the wedding planning process will help you to be prudent about how much you spend on that one day.


Tips


  • Ask for deals when negotiating the costs for your cake, flowers, and reception hall. For instance, if you are able to pay up-front, you should be able to obtain a 20% discount on your cake, which can add up to hundreds off your cake! This is also useful in negotiating your flowers.
  • Take independent businesses seriously. Individuals are more willing to cut a break than say, your grocer's flower department.
  • When planning your ceremony and reception at a hotel, ask to speak to a manager who is in charge of these services. A manager should be in a position to offer the best rates for the hotel’s services.
  • Cut out the travel (and limo fees) between the chapel and reception hall by having the wedding on the same location as your reception! Also, you may be able to negotiate a cheaper price for using more than one service provided at a particular location. This also makes it easier for out of town guests, since they won't have to drive to two locations. They will appreciate it greatly!
  • Consider getting married during an off season, such as Lent, September through November, or April. You will be able to negotiate rental prices with reception halls due to decreased demand and business. For instance, if you marry during Lent, you may be able to negotiate a bigger reception hall for the same price as a smaller one. Also, off season weddings allow for more flexibility because in the off chance you have a 95% return rate on your wedding invites, you will be able to scramble for a bigger room, cake, or food order more easily and often at less cost than during the summer months.
  • Consider a centerpiece that doubles as something else. For example, instead of one big wedding cake, put a small cake on each table. The cake is the dessert and the centerpiece! Or, if you are doing favors, put the pile of favors neatly stacked in the middle of the table. Or, create a beautiful table number, possibly decorated with a photo of the couple or a photo of a city the couple visited together, and use that as the centerpiece, surrounded by inexpensive votive candles.
  • Ask the manager to throw in extras. Use hotel house linens instead of renting others. Hotels and catering halls have their own props and centerpieces that they are happy to loan. Always ask for at least 10% off stated rates.
  • Another way to reduce the costs associated with weddings is to not mention that the item or service is for a wedding. For example, if you are renting a venue for the wedding, indicate the room will be used for a "family gathering." This approach can also be helpful for wedding cakes. A regular cake is generally priced much lower than an identical cake which has been identified as a wedding cake. If you plan to have a simple flower scheme (like gerberas and green poms) you can avoid a large markup and the need for an appointment by not mentioning the wedding.
  • For couples with many friends, have a small, family-only ceremony. Then have a large, informal reception on another date. Decorations, location, dress and everything else can be very informal and not terribly expensive. Be gracious though, and serve good food!
  • Use a tuxedo place that gives you the groom's tux for free when you order others at the same time.
  • Borrow a veil or buy one off eBay. The bridal stores charge outrageous prices for veils.
  • Have bouquets made of dried flowers or nice "silk" flowers instead of costly, fresh flowers. Cloth or ribbon flowers are also a lovely and durable option. Having the arrangements made days or weeks in advance can save time, money and stress.
  • Buy your centerpiece flowers at a wholesale warehouse. Wholesale warehouses often sell products in bulk and cheaper than normal stores. You can often get 30-40 small centerpieces for less than $100 if you are willing to ask friends and family to help.
  • Ask for assistance from friends and family! They are FREE and often happy to help.
  • Instead of flowers and ribbons to decorate the church, try large potted ferns up at the altar with simple candles. They're inexpensive and very elegant. (Keep the ferns back from open flames, safety first!)
  • If you do decide to go with fresh flowers, choose flowers that are in season. Possibly grow them yourself or buy the flowers in bulk at a Farmer's Market and arrange them yourself. Or, some trade schools that train florists will arrange wedding bouquets for the cost of the flowers.
  • Check at the chapel to see if there's another wedding the same day. Sometimes you can split the cost of decorating with the other couple - if you're both willing to choose neutral colors and whoever goes first makes sure no well-intentioned relatives "clear things up".
  • Instead of a catered event, you can serve it as a 'Pot Luck' style for the meals and can save you money.
  • Also, ask if someone might be willing to purchase the wedding cake in lieu of giving you a wedding gift.
  • Use an online service for RSVP and simply include the web address on your invitations, saving the need for RSVP cards and extra postage. Consider including a phone number for those who may not have Internet access.
  • Consider a sheet cake instead of a tiered cake, it will save you enough that you could get a fancier recipe or fancier cake decorations if you really want and still spend less.
  • Look for a dress at a thrift or consignment store or eBay and then have it altered if necessary. Even consider non-traditional dress, perhaps just something you feel looks great and you could wear it again after the wedding too.


Warnings


  • Sometimes Do-It-Yourself projects cost just as much as buying or renting the finished product. And the time costs can be enormous when you have so much else to do.
  • Don't forget to include postage costs in your budget. After invitations (usually at 60 cents), reply cards (use postcards instead of envelopes), and a zillion thank you cards, it really adds up.
  • When you are considering the cost of postage check with the Post Office to find out if there is going to be a rate increase. This can blow your budget.


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Friday, March 21, 2008

Trying on wedding dresses

When trying on wedding dresses, make sure you are able to sit comfortably and that you are able to dance in it. You might want to also make sure that when the dress is bustled it's still flattering on you.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Boquet toss

Want an alternative way to give away your bouquet? Have an "Anniversary Dance" and present it to the longest married couple.

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Greetin Guests Tip

Have your parents or the groom greet guests arriving at your ceremony site, as a hospitable gesture that sets the right tone.

Friday, March 14, 2008

Ice Breaker - First Dance

Start off your reception with your first dance. This breaks the ice right away and allows for dancing between courses and also creates a more relaxed atmosphere.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

What your friends and family can do to help

If your family and friends ask you how they can help, urge them to dance at your wedding.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

When to say your I Do's

Legend has it that saying your wedding vows in the first 30 minutes of any hour is bad luck. Say your "I Do's" when the minute hand is on the rise. It is supposed to symbolize you and your mate working together successfully in your marriage.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Something Old...

Something old, something new
Something borrowed, something blue,
And a lucky sixpence in your shoe.

I never heard the shoe part before.
The coin in the shoe is to symbolize wealth in the coming years, and many brides still slip a coint into their shoe before they walk down the aisle. In the US, the dime is the currency of choice.

Monday, March 10, 2008

Seating assignments

What to do if a member of your bridal party brings a date and is not in the bridal party. Where to seat that person.

Spouses of attendants don't sit at the head table with their husbands or wives. If they don't know anyone else at the wedding, try to seat them with someone they might have something in common with.

Friday, March 7, 2008

How to Create Silk Flower Sachets Wedding Favors


How to Create Silk Flower Sachets Wedding Favors


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Creating your own silk flower sachets wedding favors is easy and cost of the ingredients are inexpensive Silk flower sachet make an elegant gift for wedding guests. Although it's simple to make, a ready-made silk flower sachet at retail stores could run between $4 up to $12 each.

Steps


  1. Cut a piece of fabric 10"x10" and lay it flat on a table.
  2. Put some potpourri in the middle of the fabric.
  3. Lift each corners of the fabric to meet the ends together in the middle with one hand, then with your other hand grab tight the middle of the sachet until you can see the round bulky shape of sachet.
  4. Tie it real tight with cotton yarn and make sure the buds were covered with fabric.
  5. Cover the yarn by tying a ribbon on top of it.
  6. Cut the extra fabric on top by making a round shape , cut it short but not too short.
  7. Take a silk flower (just the flower) and apply some glue on the bottom with the glue gun.
  8. Stick the flower on to the top of the silk sachet and Viola! You've made your first flower sachet.


Tips


  • Heat up the glue gun before you start.
  • Cut cotton yarn long enough to tie the sachet.


Things You'll Need


  • A glue gun, a scissor, cotton yarn, potpourri, silk flowers, ribbon color and silk fabric of your choice.


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Thursday, March 6, 2008

Choosing a diamond for your engagement ring


How to Choose a Diamond


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When buying a diamond it is very easy to get carried away. Before you begin shopping determine a budget. Only you can decide what amount is comfortable for you. Remember - Diamonds are expensive and for this reason you need to know how to choose the best diamond for your money.

Steps


  1. Set a Budget - don't start looking for a diamond before you have set a budget. Setting a budget will allow you to quickly focus on the diamonds available at your price range.
  2. Know the 4C's - Over the years, diamond professionals have developed standards for comparing and evaluating diamonds. These standards are better known as the 4 C's - Carat weight, Color, Clarity, and Cut - which, together, affect the appearance and value of the diamond. A diamond's value is influenced by its rarity. Before purchasing your diamond you should take the time to learn what characteristics influence a diamond's value. Only then can you decide which of the 4C's - Carat weight, Color, Clarity, and Cut - are most important to you. Strive for a stone that offers the best combination of the 4C's.
  3. Choose the shape that pleases you - Today's most popular shape is the "brilliant cut," but diamonds come in many appealing shapes. Do not confuse this with Cut. The Cut of the diamond pertains to its proportioning and light performance. The finer the Cut, the more brilliance the diamond will possess. And, after all, that's what you want from a diamond, isn't it?
  4. Choose your diamond's color - Remember, the difference in color is minute but the price is not.
  5. Choose the Clarity - Most diamonds have blemishes and inclusions. These inclusions are what makes your diamond unique. Diamonds are graded under 10 power magnification, so you might think twice before paying for better clarity that can't be seen with the naked eye. Large inclusions (from I1 quality and below, typically) can affect light performance.
  6. Carat weight - Obviously everyone strives to purchase as large a diamond as possible. Remember, a large diamond is not always a beautiful diamond. Make sure you haven't compromised too much on the other 3C's before selecting your diamond. Be especially careful on the diamond's cut. A poorly cut diamond loses its fire and brilliance, therefore looking more like a piece of glass.


Tips


  • Buying diamonds on the Internet can be cheaper than buying them from conventional sellers due to lower overhead costs.
  • Before purchasing your diamond, ask about the seller's "Conflict Free Diamonds" policy.
  • Ask if your seller will provide Conflict Neutral certification.
  • Lab-created diamonds are much less expensive (for the same quality of stone) than mined diamonds. Decide which kind you want.
  • Remember that 1 caret weighs about 0.2 grams. So, 5 carets equal a gram.


Warnings


  • Before deciding to buy a diamond online make sure the diamonds are certified through an independent laboratory or that the business you are purchasing from has credentials. Look for memberships such as the Jewelers of America and The American Gem Society.


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Wednesday, March 5, 2008

How to Plan Your Wedding


How to Plan Your Wedding


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Planning your wedding is not an easy task and it can be quite stressful. The key is to stay organized. Here are a few tips to get you started.

Steps


  1. Set a budget. Very important -- you should plan how much you want to spend on each detail of your wedding, and make sure you don't exceed that amount. In some cases but not all, parents of the bride or groom will offer to pay for specific things.
  2. Choose a theme. It doesn't have to be anything really specific, but you want there to be a consistent feeling throughout.
  3. Decide on the size of your wedding. Remember to talk this over with your fiance. A dream wedding for one may not be for the other.
  4. Choose your venue. Even church venues can charge fees.
  5. Choose your officiant (a pastor, for example). If they don't charge a fee outright to perform the ceremony, be courteous to pay a generous gratuity for their time.
  6. Attend pre-marriage counseling. This may take a large time commitment, but is worth it in the long-run. Be honest about your desires and expectations for marriage.
  7. Set the date. The factors in choosing a date include the availability of your venue, friends and family.
  8. Send out invitations. Be creative; you can make your own and add a personal touch. Send them as early as feasible, for yours to make schedule arrangements.
  9. Get the gown. Start looking early, months before the wedding. This way you will have plenty of time to make a selection and take care of fitting.
  10. Get some wedding rings. This is a fun task to do together.
  11. Find a photographer/videographer. Consider a professional for this special occasion.
  12. Decide what type of food and refreshments you will offer at the reception dinner. Try to find a happy medium between what would please your guests and what you can afford. Weigh the pros and cons of hiring a professional caterer, as it's not cheap, but it's one less thing you'll have to handle personally.
  13. Pick a cake. Before settling on a cake it's best to have a tasting first.


Tips


  • Stay organized; get a looseleaf binder and insert tab pages for each detail of your wedding. Keep notes and worksheets for each detail and you will be well on your way to making your wedding unforgettable and reducing your stress.
  • On the wedding day, be prepared for things not to go exactly as planned. This is a fun day! Regard the mishaps as part of the fun!
  • If your pet is important in your life, it is becoming increasingly common to include your special pet in your wedding, and be sure to dress them up in a dog tuxedo or dress!
  • Consider reading about married and home life at least twice as much as you read about wedding planning even as you prepare towards the wedding day. It will keep a better set of priorities in perspective. A wedding lasts a day, but a marriage lasts a lifetime.


Warnings


  • If you try to plan your wedding by yourself, you may feel overwhelmed. Assign tasks to others in your party and family.
  • Pay attention to wedding etiquette. Consult books by true experts like Miss Manners, rather than wedding magazines or popular (but etiquette-unreliable) websites like theknot.com. Contrary to popular belief, following proper modern etiquette will often lead to you spending LESS money on your wedding, NOT more!


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Tuesday, March 4, 2008

How to Make Inexpensive Quality Homemade Wedding Invitations


How to Make Cheap Homemade Wedding Invitations


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Would you like to save money on your wedding invitations and
still have lovely invites that will impress everybody who
receives one? Of course you would! Why not make them yourself? You are probably thinking that you have no idea of how to make cheap homemade wedding invitations. It isn’t difficult, saves you quite a bit of money and can be great fun.

Steps


  1. Decide on the level of formality your wedding will have. This will have an effect on your design and wording choices.
  2. Browse the web, looking for, do it yourself wedding invitation ideas. Many sites offer free templates with or without designs and wording samples. They allow you to download templates to use as is or to adapt to suit your needs. Some sites only allow you to download free templates if you purchase your wedding stationary from them.
  3. Decide on your design, or graphic image and the wording that you will use.
  4. Pick a font that goes with the theme and style of your invitations.
  5. Buy your wedding invitation stationery, including cards for any enclosures, such as RSVPs, Thank You cards and programs. You may want to use your stationery blanks which are available in a wide variety of sizes and colors, purchase a few extra in case of a printing mishap, such as an ink smear or paper jam.
  6. Purchase extra ink cartridges, so that you don’t run out in the middle of this important project.
  7. Schedule an afternoon or evening to create your invitations and then print them. The whole thing shouldn’t take more than a couple of hours to complete.
  8. Before telling the printer to begin making X number of copies, print one copy of each piece on plain paper cut to the sizes of your stationery, to make sure that everything is lined up properly, and to check for typographical errors.
  9. Make sure that the printer you plan on using adjusts to the different sizes of your stationary.
  10. Enlist family and friends with nice handwriting to help you address your invitations.
  11. Have fun while learning how to make cheap homemade wedding invitations.

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Tips


  • Are you feeling overwhelmed, by trying to choose a design for your invitations? What is your theme? If you are having a destination wedding use clip art, photos or original art work that represent your destination, such as a beach scene, flip flops, palm trees, sunsets, or mountains.
  • Here, are some design ideas, that you may want to use on your invitations. For a western wedding a WANTED poster is at present very popular. Cowboy boots, and hats are often seen on western invitations. Couples often use fonts that look like logs or rope on this type of invitations.
  • Disney weddings are also extremely popular, and you can download free clip art of Cinderella and Prince Charming to use on your invitations, as well as other Disney icons like Lady and the Tramp.
  • Many couples are choosing to honor their religious or ethnic roots, for example, a Celtic Cross might be chosen by an Irish Catholic couple, and a Star of David or a rolled Torah scroll by a Jewish couple. A native American bride and groom might use a dream catcher on theirs. Consider honoring your heritage on this special day. Photos of landmarks from your ancestral homeland, also make great images for wedding invitations.
  • Where to find wording examples? How about using a quote from your favorite love song or poem or the Bible. We hope these tips on how to make cheap homemade wedding invitations, have inspired you to give it a try.


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